Who Will He Choose?
As ABC’s “The Bachelor” star Chris Soules narrows down his options for a future wife, I can’t help but wonder will he make the right decision? If you have been keeping up with the show you will know that now two girls are left and the big question still remains. Will they be cut out for the farming lifestyle?
Chris works with his dad
It is no secret that Chris is the only boy in his family. With three sisters, he has leaned to be considerate of others’ feelings and is definitely not afraid of a few tears. This little bit of information also gives me insight into his work life as well. My husband is the only boy amongst girls and having seen the responsibilities his parents have put on him in preparation to take over the family farm, I expect that Chris’ parents have done the exact same thing. In an interview with Successful Farming, Chris talks a little about the early mornings and late nights in the tractor. He also said that he and his dad had to hire some seasonal help to cover his absence while filming the show. This verifies my suspicion that Chris and his dad farm together without much extra help. Earlier in the show I had wondered if they are the type to do all their own work or if they hire out. I am excited to see that Chris and his family are legit and they indeed stay true to the family farming lifestyle. Chris even says in his interview “farming is my career and my passion”. Hope his future wife is ready to support that passion.
His future wife will need patience
One thing I didn’t realize when I first got married was how much I would dread the long evenings at home alone. During spring planting and fall harvest the nights can get long. A determined farmer is no stranger to pulling a few all nighters each year to get the seeds in the ground before a rain and during harvest, he will work as late as Mother Nature will allow. This time can be a little lonely for the wife. Given that most of the contestants are city girls I can’t help but wonder if they will adjust well to living out in the middle of nowhere.
Another thing, early on in Season 19, Jimmy Kimmel sent Chris and Kaitlyn to a store to pick up random items. I couldn’t help but laugh when Kaitlyn gave a look of “are you kidding me?” when Jimmy said “this is what normal couples do!” I’ll just put it out there now, a lot of my dates include stops at the Farm Store and Parts stores… we live about 40 minutes out of town so our dates include grocery shopping and other errands. I don’t know any other farming couple that does this differently.
One last thought, his future wife can’t be emotionally driven. Of course as women, we are naturally a little more emotional. But with farming, you marry the man, yes. You also marry his career and the family business that his parents and grandparents have worked so hard to build. His parents will play a large role in their life; as family business owners, they probably make most of the decisions and control income. This is not a bad thing; it is the way it should be. The parents have devoted their entire life to build a business and be able to hand the farm down to their children. Chris and his wife are the children that will inherit and continue the farm. That is just the way works. Chris needs to make sure that whoever he chooses will not be in over her head. Sometimes it is hard to adjust to a work life, family life, a private life and social life all being intermingled together.
His wife will need to be family oriented
Because work life, family life, private life and sometimes your social life can be all intermingled, I hope his wife will like the family. It sure makes things easier! Did anyone else notice that he had mentioned in one of the episodes he wants a wife who gets along well with others? This is probably why! It is also important that the family gets along well with the wife. I like how he had his sisters, the closest women in his life, interview the girls. This speaks volumes to how much Chris values his family and trusts their instincts.
She will need to be someone who is not afraid of work
Farmers need “a little help” frequently. Another set of eyes keeps accidents from happening. Chris might also forget his supper and need someone to run it out to him, even if he is in a field 20 or 30 minutes away. He can’t just stop what he is doing and drive to the house. With slow moving equipment, that would take hours. I can imagine that Chris will ask for help for “just a minute” while his wife is trying to get ready to leave for work, or after she comes home. He might work up to the last second before they leave, or rush out to work as soon as they get home. This is just what farmers do. They have a passion for their work and an understanding of the value of getting things done.
His wife will need to be someone who values her commitment
Working crazy and long hours doesn’t mean farmers neglect their families. Often times it is just the opposite. They work hard to provide for their families and give them a better life. Farming is not a 9-5 job. If things still need done, you stay to finish the job. I have learned that if I want to spend more time with my husband, I need to meet him at his level. This includes helping in the farm repair shop and riding along in the tractor. Because farming is our only income source, it’s a little hard for me to say “it’s me or the farm”. Eventually you learn to value that time in the tractor and combining into the sunset. There is just something special about being out in nature with the man you love.
Will Chris choose Becca or Whitney to be his wife? And even after the selection, I can’t help but wonder if that love will last and if she will adjust well to his lifestyle. Who are you rooting for? Do you think they will be married and live happy ever after?